Tuesday, September 1, 2009

4 years later...


Everyone around here has a Katrina story, and we have told ours many many times. We tell it to our friends who weren't here for the storm and to our relatives from out of town. We told it to the people we met in Nebraska, explaining over and over that we were indeed planning on moving back to our home. We tell it to each other sometimes, partly for therapy and partly in attempt to archive it, I think. Funny, the people we don't tell it to are the friends who "lost everything" like us. With them it's more of a nod of recognition or a quick reference to something I "used to have."

One day Aaron and I will tell our kids about "the storm." We will say how we are still living in the very spot we were when our house was destroyed. We will show them where the old front door was and where their room would have been in "Milne 1," as we've taken to calling it. We'll show them how high the water was and where the mold reached up to the ceiling. And we will show them pictures.

We'll show them pictures of the hundreds of books covering our spare bedroom floor that came down when the bookshelves collapsed and floated out of the bins that held up our desk. We'll show them pictures of the bedroom and explain how it's possible that the top of the bed and everything on it is dry even though it sits 2 feet below the water line on the wall. We'll show them the contents of our cabinets strewn all over the kitechen floor, thousands of dollars worth of wedding presents covered in dirt and mold like an apocalyptic Williams Sonoma add.

What we won't be showing them are pictures of Aaron and I at our Junior and Senior Prom, pictures of Aaron carrying me across the threshold of the house on the Westbank we rented together after high school, or pictures of our Greenwood apartment we moved in to when we got married. Like so many other people around here, our pre-Katrina stories will be accompanied only by the pictures in our memory, pictures we can't show our children. I won't be handing Lola a box of old pictures like my mom handed me when I asked about her life before kids. Instead, I will show her a picture of a bin sitting amid the rubble in our spare bedroom closet. A box full to the brim with pictures of our life before "the storm." Pictures that once showed Aaron and I in Halloween costumes and in front of Mardi Gras floats, dancing in bars and studying in the living room made into indistinguishable swirls of color like a child's first fingerpainting project.

People around here still talk about what they "lost in the storm," especially around the end of August. Funny, it never occured to me to think about what Lola and Jackson lost. Until now.

A pic of the kids standing beneath our Katrina Water Line marker:

Monday, August 17, 2009

Preemie Diapers

I was cleaning out the kids' closet the other day and came across an old pack of preemie diapers. Couple this accident with all the babies happening amongst our friends and it's no surprise a little sentimentality ensued.

Preemie diaper v. current #3 diaper:
It's hard to believe that those tiny preemie diapers used to be so big on the kids.
Just for kicks, I put one of those preemie diapers on Lola. It doesn't look too funny from behind,
but look at it from the front!

What a difference 17 months makes!

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Copycats

It doesn't take much to get Lola or Jackson to mimic you. Lola's go-to dance (and she really LOVES to dance) was taught to her by one of her BFF's a while ago and now she does it every time she hears music. One of Jackson's favorite buddies was over the other day and had Jackson saying "Dude!!!" within the hour. It seems like they are learning something new almost every day. Some things they don't retain. They may say/do it once or twice and then if it's not reinforced, they either forget it or file it in the back of their brain for later use. Let's hope Jackson's new word is one of the things that doesn't get reinforced and is immediately forgotten.

A couple of days ago Jackson tipped over my coffee cup. I was more startled than mad and guess what was the first word out of my mouth. "S**t!"And it wasn't quiet either. It came out full force. And guess what was the very next word out of his mouth. Yep, that's right. Baby's first curse word.

I knew this day would come. I knew one day I would have to sensor everything that came out of my mouth. It's not like I can't do it. All those years I taught gymnastics I never even once yelled "s**t" when a kids fell off the balance beam. It's just a matter of getting used to it again. And I guess I'm a little disappointed that it's happening. Sometimes there's really nothing more fitting than a good PG-13 rated curse word (ok, maybe occasionally even an R rated one). Oh well. Guess I'm gonna have to put the G rated filter back on.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

I hope my house survives the exploration phase

Lola and Jackson watch and mimic EVERYTHING we do. We talk on the phone, they talk on the toy phone. We aim the remote at the tv, they aim (throw) the remote at the tv. We drink out of a water bottle, they "drink" out of a water bottle. I put the groceries away, they "help" put the groceries away.

Believing that Lola and Jack will benefit from learning through exploration and even a little trial and natural consequence, I have tried to keep forbidden activities to a minimum. Of course there are a few areas that just aren't safe: pantry, laundry room, bathroom...

But the little explorers are getting crafty. After finishing some quick house work the other day I settled down with my coffee and computer (I mean classic novel) and was deep in Balloon Tower Defense (I mean Treasure Island) when I realized they had penetrated my defenses in one of the forbidden areas...

The DISHWASHER!

Admiring the effort it must have taken to get in, I just removed the glass and knives and let them at it.
(No children were harmed in the making of this photo series)

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Summer fun






We've been having a lot of fun with dirt lately. Is there really any better way to spend the summer?

Monday, July 13, 2009

Shoes

Lola LOVES shoes. She brings me her shoes and Jackson's shoes all day and wants me to put them on her. She constantly brings me my shoes and wants me to put them on (a little inconvenient cause I really don't like wearing shoes in the house). She changes her shoes at least several times a day. But her love of accessories doesn't stop there. She has a blue small mardi gras bead necklace she carries around ALL THE TIME! She also likes to put pajama bottoms on her head and calls them hats. And she has recently taken to carrying around this small red toy bucket like a purse, filling it with all sorts of fun things.

This love of accessories is very cute. I'm just not sure where she gets it. Certainly not from her mom!

She brought us these shoes and put them on all on her own!

To be fair, dad's shoes are pretty difficult to fill :)

Saturday, July 4, 2009

15 Months Already?!?!


A little late with this post, but just in case any of you are still interested...

Lola and Jackson turned 15 months old on June 11th and on the 15th we went for their 15 months check up.
Hard to believe, really, that we're already here. If the past 15 months have gone by this fast then how fast will the next 15 months go? I put the kids on a waiting list for a mother's day out/preschool for next fall. That's NEXT SEPTEMBER, a year from now. "Is it too soon to put them on the list?," I asked the woman on the phone. "Absolutely not!" she said. And off I went to drop off our applications and a check. It's just all happening too fast. Before I know it I'll be dropping them off at kindergarten.

So on to the check up. The stats:
Jackson weighs 22 pounds 10 ounces, is 31 inches long and his head circumference is 18 3/8 inches. He is in the 25th-50th percentile for all his measurements. Lola is still significantly smaller than her brother, weighing in at 20 pounds 2.5 ounces (10-25th percentile). She remains between 2 1/2 and 3 pounds smaller than Jack. She is 30 inches long (25-50th percentile), an inch shorter than Jack at this check up when she was only 1/4 inch shorter at 12 months. Her head circumference is 17 1/4 inches (10th percentile). All numbers aside, both babies, er... toddlers, are growing nicely.

The doctor asked about their developmental milestones and both Lola and Jackson are meeting them all. It never fails to thrill me as she checks off the items on the list without pausing, going through them quickly and anticipating that my answer will be "yes" to all her questions. Every time we go through this check up ritual I think how wonderful it is that we can breeze through the milestones. I don't know how much time will have to pass before I stop thinking about how these checkups could be so different. For me the milestone checklists are just as much about what we AREN'T doing as what we are. About how we aren't charting Lola and Jackson's development based on both chronological age and adjusted age. About how I'm not constantly looking for signs of the long term effects of extreme prematurity (sensory issues, feeding disorders). About how we aren't dealing with blindness or deafness or cerebral palsy or any of the disabilities that Aaron and I were warned about by the doctors in Colorado. I don't think about it nearly as much as I used to. But going through the milestones checklists... they still bring it all right back.

They really make me so very thankful. Thankful for Aaron and my parents and my family and Aaron's family and all our friends and all my doctors and nurses. Thankful for the medicines and procedures and monitors and even that awful hateful magnesium sulfate. Thankful for the doctors and the incredibly patient nurses at the NICU and the feeding tubes and the babies' treatments and medicines and the hospital grade breast pump. Thankful for everyone and everything that helped get us here, where our milestones, smiling and head lifting and sleeping through the night and sitting and eating solids and crawling and walking and talking, are amazing because babies are amazing, but not at all unexpected.

And the rest of the checkup...
the doctor and I spoke about Jackson's apparent intolerance of soybean oil. She said I could get an expensive test to confirm the allergy, but since he has had the reaction 3 times and none of them were severe, the test isn't really necessary. So for now we're just simply trying to avoid soybean oil. It's not really that hard since most things that are good for you don't contain it. No more Jiff or Sabra hummus. He'll have to stick to the all natural healthier options.

Lola's foot is still turning in but no intervention yet. We're hoping she'll grow out of it.

And that's pretty much it. It was a pretty uneventful appointment. And I'm so thankful for that.